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I've noticed that I'm always putting much more effort into my relationships with people than they put with me.
People don't even remember my birthday. I met this girl a few years ago who complained nobody remembered hers and I made the point to remember it, but when it was my turn, nothing.
Sometimes I feel like I don't even exist.
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>>320 (OP)
You have to keep searching, sometimes people just generally don't really mix well no matter what you try. Take blacks and whites, even before you get to the racist parts, the cultures are very different and at odds with each other. That's why white flight is a thing. IMHO, ultimately you're not obligated to stay around people you don't like, even family. Yeah you'll become a deadbeat/scumbag to many but do you really want to spend the rest of your life pleasing people who won't even acknowledge you as important in their life? We're not here forever man, one day the grey hairs will start flowing, the knees will creek, and the ride will soon be over.
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>>321
Though by "family" I should clarify to mean cousins/siblings. You should stick around for as much as you can afford for your parents since you owe them like a quarter million dollars and infinity hours of sleep for raising you. Only in cases of really bad neglect/abuse should you ever truly abandon them.
>>322
Or stagnation. Some people just can't seem to let go of their silly ideas of being able to "fix" a family/friend who's let them down for the 10th time in a row. Like a white girl thinking she can change her boyfriend who's rap sheet includes armed robbery, attempted murder, arson, tax fraud, and so on and so on.... and is currently on probation with an unregistered firearm lol.
I maintain friendships with friends I made in middle school and put effort into those relationships, but when it comes to new friendships I'm somewhat lazy about it. Especially online friends. Well, the reality is when I'm online, I probably don't want to synchronously chat with you. Especially not on some horrendous "service" like Discord. I'd probably be more receptive to an online friendship if someone was willing to correspond over email.
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>>1357
I think it's usually wrong to assimilate people over the internet as friends because there's no strong incentive to be truthful about yourself. Catfishing is the most obvious example, dudes thinking they bagged a 9/10 asian chick only to find out it's a man good at silicone implants/makeup. Then there's all those patriot™ twitter accounts that turn out to be from India and so on and so on.
The rare cases where you may possibly want to consider making an internet friend an actual friend is if you constantly "click" with them and form a deeper bond than say a parasocial relationship over years. But even then be prepared to be lied to, sometimes out of necessity to not be homeless and sometimes out of a mutated form of love that cannot exist.
But having external online communities where you can discuss things that would push away your IRL friends/family is nice. Like if you spend hours building ships in a bottle every night and find communities that value this then it's nice feeling that you share this unique interest with other human beings somewhere out there.
>>1358
It's good to let go sometimes because often that's how people improve themselves. It's like 4chan if you cane from there like me, I did my best to weather the constant spam and utterly broken and worn down state of the site. Then the 2025 hack and still the refusal for 4chan to improve things made me start searching for altchans.
I had good times with 4chan and it was the source of the 2026 backrooms movie, so many good memories. But I've realized it's a mistake going back there because I'm not valued there and the oldfags left long ago.